My advice would be to wait until your girlfriend asks for something and then strike a deal with her, telling her she can have what she wants if she starts wearing hoops for a time, howver long you think! I'd buy the hoops you like for her in advance, ready for when the situation arises. Therefore you both get wha you want!
As a male of the species, can I say that I am fascinated by ear piercing and hinged sleepers. this goes back a long time to the early seventies when I would see girls come into school with their newly pierced ears sporting a pair of gold sleepers. I'm not sure where this came from as my mum did not have pierced ears and I did not have a sister. I would hear "XX has had her ears pierced" and the girls would group around the latest person to be pierced at the local jewellers. I remember in one lesson a girl called Linda said to her friend that she had to turn her sleepers, wow!
My girlfriend (who became my wife) had pierced ears, and one night having taken her earrings out, plucked up the courage (my heart was pounding at the time) to ask her if she still had her sleepers. She said that they had broken but asked me why I liked them; I replied that they would look like she had just had her ears pierced.
Anyway nothing more was said until we went on holiday and having unpacked, she handed me an envelope and inside was a new pair of gold hinged sleepers, which she let me put in her ears. 25+ years on and she will still wear sleepers for me, I love seeing them in her ears and she loves me to turn them and gently tug on them. I love turning them through her pierced hole and I imagine her just having been pierced
She also likes wearing two inch hoops and gold ball studs, and does like me to play with her studs "to twiddle the knobs" as she calls it. I did buy her a pair of piercing studs, but because the post is that tiny bit bigger, I struggle to get them in her holes and she finds it uncomfortable to wear them. A while ago, we went out and she had actually forgotten to put any earrings in that day, and I thought that when we got home I would put her big hoops in, but she came in and put some earrings in. She said later that I should have, I would love to go out with her with the big hoops in, but she said she could not. I asked her again on holiday just recently, but she says they don't suit her (I think they do, but they're her pierced ears). she will always wear them when we're close.
She had her ears pierced at a jewellers in 1974 long before the "gun and stud" method of piercing, by means of a device called the Simplicity Ear Piercer which in effect pushed a needle through the lobe and the sleeper is then inserted manually and fastened, other models push the needle and the sleeper in one operation. she described it as a burning sensation when the needle went through. Even back then ear piercing was still rare and she had to make an appointment, I suppose this was to ensure the device was sterile. This is what fascinates me, this method of piercing compared to today's method, back then there were no gloves, no marker pen - the jeweller would just spray something on and then pierce in the place he thought was right. Occasionally, one of the devices comes up on e-bay and always gets sold.
I have asked my wife if she would like to have her ears pierced again but she said no, until last month on holiday when she let me put on the spring clip sleepers and said she would have another hole done if I would like her to. Wow! but nothing yet, but she does not want me there, shame.
She doesn't like men with pierced ears, so I'll never have one done and she doesn't like me wearing the spring clip sleeper. I missed my chance many years ago when I went on holiday on my own to Jersey and stood outside a jewellers that offered "ear piercing - while you wait" which quite amused me. I have worn one out once and it was quite a thrill, with no one taking any notice.
Our daughter had her ears pierced when she was about nine, and after that most of her friends had theirs done. This was her decision although she had asked about it when she was about 7 but when told it hurt, she decided not to. I would like to have been with her when she had them done but I have seen piercing done quite a few times at Claire’s. When she was about three, I asked my wife if she was looking forwards to seeing J with pierced ears and she said she thought she was, but would take her to have them done if I wanted her to. I couldn't have done that to her little lobes. My wife would not have had them done in the way our niece was taken at age 4 and had her ears shot through, I don’t think she had any say in the matter as her mum had wanted them done from about one year old, apparently she screamed. Even two years on when we gave her some little hoops she thought it was going to hurt and started crying. I am completely against babies and toddlers being pierced just because the mother (usually) wants it, but that is another argument.
Looking at the web, it seems I am not the only man fascinated by piercing and liking sleepers, there is a thread "Ear piercing before the gun was invented" on Female First.
It would be good to hear of any other husbands who like ear piercing and sleepers.
Paul
guvunor wrote:
My advice would be to wait until your girlfriend asks for something and then strike a deal with her, telling her she can have what she wants if she starts wearing hoops for a time, howver long you think! I'd buy the hoops you like for her in advance, ready for when the situation arises. Therefore you both get wha you want!
I do not think it's correct that you blackmail your girlfriend!
My wife doesnt like hoops, although she let me pierce her third hole in her left lobe, and likes studs and any type of dangles. I gave some hoops as a presents, but didnt play. In the other hand, i have my left lobe pierced. As she doesn`t like too much me to use it, i blackmailed her, telling that she wear hoops, I maight take off my stud for a time. But doesnt play anyway. My stud is already in its place. I cant prescript anything abouth this issue.
My wife hated hoops, she said that it make her look like a slut. Thats just what I wanted. I asked her to buy some hoops but she refused so I got some online. I then asked her to wear them that it was important to me so she did. Now she wears them all the time when at home. She now knows how to drive me mad, the bigger the better for me. I just love them.
It turns a women sexy.
I also bought two pairs of golden studs 